அன்பிற்கும் உண்டோ அடைக்கும் தாழ் .....

In this fast world, many of us find no time to look back yesterday and appreciate the greatness that we noticed with others.

It is also alarming that in the society, people are giving more focus for negativity and not bother to highlight good points.

Even if we found good character or anything make us happy about others, we (It is only a general comment and not pointing anyone) are reserving ourself and not sharing the feeling most of the time openly and in some cases it may be behind them only.

I read that the sign of True Relationship is “Speaking without Ego”, “Loving without Intension”, “Caring without Expectation”, ” Praying without Selfishness”, made me to write something about my சித்த‌ப்பா, சித்தி, அத்தை and அத்திம்பேர் and to share with everyone openly. I want to build True Relationship.

This is only a start and I might have missed many things. Don’t take it serious for any such omissions, if there.

Sundaresan சித்த‌ப்பா & Pattu சித்தி

I am having great regards to them and you can very well see it that we never called him by including his name. All the time, we call him with love and affection as “பெரிய‌ சித்த‌ப்பா”. As the name, is the சித்தி(ப‌ட்டு). You can expect good love and affection from her.

சித்த‌ப்பா used to tell us that we should never ask him or inform him that we want to come to his house for leave. He used to tell that it is our right to visit him at any time. What greatness. His house is that one I visited more number of times in my life. I visited almost all the houses he stayed in his life so far.

The க‌ண்டிப்பு க‌ல‌ந்த‌ அன்பு from them is unique.

I still remember the days that self and Rama visited their house in Singarapettai and the help he extended to Sridhar when he was in Coimbatore.

In those days when self and Sridhar visited his house in Tiruppattur, we were named as his secretary / James Bonds 007 & 003 !! The story of Alibhaba and 40 thieves told by him at 17 Babu Rao Street is unforgettable.

The unique and best quality I saw and wish to adopt from them is doing prayer together as a family. Till date he is doing it. I learnt many slogas from them only. Keeping the time schedule, doing things perfectly is the best thing I learnt from them

Raja சித்த‌ப்பா & Vijaya சித்தி

Raja சித்த‌ப்பா really means his name and he is a king. One can see the good quality of work he makes, great analytical and statistical skills, fantastic and incomparable writing skill and so-on many skills.

Both சித்த‌ப்பா and சித்தி are great readers and one has to get this habit from them.

They are the person who made me to read news papers fully. When I was in his house at Hyderabad, I remember, he used to play with us using news paper, to find out news which may be available in any page. While playing you are forced to read the news and slowly the habit developed. It was his house, only where, I stayed more than a month also.

Now-a-days you can see his blog posting covering all aspect of life.

One can learn the art of developing children from them by seeing the way how they brought up A,A,A

The help சித்த‌ப்பா and சித்தி extended during ம‌ன்னி’s death is unforgettable. Thanks a lot dear RC & VC

Sugavanam சித்த‌ப்பா & Girija சித்தி

Both of them are very soft spoken person. I am equating myself with சித்த‌ப்பா as I heard from பாட்டி that self and Sridhar are like Sugavanam & Jayaraman. So there is special love and affection to him from my side

I can not forget the help he extended to me directly when I was in Chennai in 1980 for Telephone Operator’s training and subsequent indirect help through Girija சித்தி’s sister Babu -- as he transferred to Kolkatta.

Their character of loving everyone instantly by showing happiness on face is absolutely incomparable. He is having the quality of making any crying child to smile within no time. சின்ன‌ பாப்பா எங்க‌ செல்ல‌ பாப்பா is a master song from him.

The day he spends with us by playing cards and made us happy is unforgettable.

They are the person you can take for granted that they will be with you for any of your requirement at any point of time. Before you ask, he will be there to help and guide you.

Girija சித்தி is one person with whom I spoke a lot, even on daily basis from Bombay, when they were in Delhi. A friendly சித்தி. ->> சித்தி, we are missing you a lot now

As Raja சித்த‌ப்பா did, the help extended by SC & GC at the time of அண்ணா’s death is also unforgettable.

Jayaraman சித்த‌ப்பா & Kalyani சித்தி

Being in Cuddalore, I spent more time with them. சித்த‌ப்பா may get angry at times but as the old say “ கோப‌ம் இருக்கும் இட‌த்தில்தான் குண‌ம் இருக்கும்” he is a golden person by heart.

I cannot forget the day he came to Cuddalore bus stand to take me home when I came from Sankarapuram alone (I was 8 years Old) to join school. He gave the confidence and admitted me in the school.

My (and Sridhar’s) dream to have a cycle for our own was found out by him and he only got a cycle for our own use. “உள்ள‌ம் அறிந்து தானாக‌ செய்த‌ செய‌ல்” is an unique example for his character.

He never mined to spend money and wants to live a quality life. I think it is another unique quality of him

Kalyani சித்தி as we all know is a known for her simplicity and quietness.

I learnt from them how to have control in life when you have problems and how to be patience even if you get big problems and to smile.

சித்த‌ப்பா, சித்தி – Don’t worry for anything. We are not understanding why God play with us but it will not take time everything to reverse and to have a fantastic life with family together. கால‌ம் ஒரு நாள் மாறும் நம் க‌வ‌லைக‌ள் யாவும் தீரும்.

Padma அத்தை & KVS அத்திம்பேர்

They are the one who liked me a lot. Their love and affection only made it possible for me to be with them in Pune for more than a month when I was only 3+ years old. They treated me as well used to tell everyone that I am their first son. I cannot forget this.

Today many of the corporate talks about waste management but we can learn a lot from them how to lead a life without wasting things.

The specialty of அத்தை is preparation of ர‌ச‌ம். You have to visit their house only to take ஈய‌ சொம்பு ர‌ச‌ம்.

Saroja அத்தை & Ramamurthy அத்திம்பேர்

Best quality of them is “பாராட்டுத‌ல்” and having very good handwriting. As I was in Cuddalore, they used to write many letter to Cuddalore, they never forget to appreciate any good work done by anyone. They were the one told me that they are proud that I am their “Good ம‌ருமான்”.

It is a million dollar question for me how he is managing to buy so much of books, reading them and keeping them safely for years. A very good habit.

It was my dream and wish to go to their house, right from Bangalore, Kanpur, Allahabad, Kolkatta, Cochin, Chennai etc & to stay for some days but I don’t know why it does not materialized so far. I am sure my ஆசை to stay with them will fulfill soon.

You can visualize and has to learn the respect & affection one should have with their spouse by seeing the scene of அத்திம்பேர் sitting in dinning table and அத்தை giving coffee to him slowly. What a காட்சி ! Worth seeing and good mutual understandable person.

They are the person who made me to wait for their coming to Cuddalore every year. I don’t know the reason but it is true. There should be some other quality within them that I have to identify and to understand.

அத்திம்பேர் is the person I should respect as அண்ணா had great friendship with him and both of them move together whenever he came to Cuddalore.

Savithri அத்தை & Srinivasan அத்திம்பேர்

If I say simply அத்தை (without attaching any name), it will refer Savithri அத்தை only. If someone I have to admire and has to pay regards all the time in the world apart from my father and mother, it should be to Athai only. She did a lot to me in my life. It is not easy to bring-up anyone but she did it in my life. Right from giving meals timely, washing my cloths, keeping a watch on my studies and the list will be endless. Thanks அத்தை for your selfless attitude and care you took on my growth.

I slightly remember the quality of அத்திம்பேர். The day I went to Salem, he fed me like anything and when I was not even able to move out of hotel, he carried me out of the hotel and took me to house in a horse cart. Also I remember the Banian he gave to me – a big one and quality one – which I used for more than 3 years ! I think he is a man of quality and generosity.


Mangalam அத்தை & Gopi அத்திம்பேர்

அத்தை took special care for me as she was in Cuddalore and I was small boy. அத்தை ம‌டி மெத்தைய‌டி is a song but she proved it. May be because of less difference in age compare to others, she took me also along with her in all game. We cannot forget the days played with her – பாண்டி, புளிய‌ங்கொட்டை ஆட்ட‌ம், தாய‌க‌ட்டை, ப‌ல்லாங்குழி. She inspired me a lot to develop interest to go to College even when I was in school because she was the first one I saw going to college and describing about college life.

Gopi அத்திம்பேர் has never behaved with us as someone from outside. He played a lot with us right from the day he saw us and shared many valuable information. He is having good, quality knowledge towards Poojas and Viradhams. If anyone has any doubt; we can get assured correct clarification from him.

Note : Even though I am airing my view on my blog, I was little bit cautious to put disclaimer / generalization / condition apply because I feel everyone may not be in a position to accept / understand what I am meaning and want to communicate – may be due to any reasons presently. My wish and my work will be in the direction that I should build a relationship with others that such disclaimers should not be there in future.

Others can contribute to include on this page about our dear and nears & can be taken forward for next generation.